The economic damage being done by the Covid-19 virus is getting wall-to-wall coverage in today’s media, and for good reason. The shutdown is impacting people’s livelihoods, their ability to provide for their family, and widespread damage is being done to the balance sheets of businesses large and small. While these stories are important, we need to remember that damage isn’t just being done at the macro level, but at the most personal level, one person at a time.
As a trauma therapist and helping professional I have worked with a diverse population of people. Among those people, a common theme is evident, and that is, a need for connection, attachment, purpose and love. When those denominators were not present at childhood and are lacking in the present, a sense of powerlessness can occur. And often people feel hopeless.
Most individuals find worth in their sense of purpose and meaning. When that purpose and meaning is challenged it can cause a myriad of experiences such as anxiety and depression. With this recent statewide shut down, people from all walks of life have experienced levels of anxiety.
For those who have experienced anxiety, and depending on their existing sense of purpose and meaning, this time can be even more triggering. Much like those in a weakened physical state are most vulnerable to the virus itself, those who have trauma histories or who are enduring mental health challenges are most vulnerable to the effects of widespread isolation. Many depend upon their immediate support systems for safety, calm and self-regulation.
Recently, my mother-in-law’s care facility was placed on lock-down due to two reported Covid-related cases. The residents of the facility have found deep community and lifelong friendships amongst each other. Unfortunately, they are now confined to their rooms and have limited access to being outdoors. Elderly citizens in particular, need socialization. Let’s face it, we all do, even those of us otherwise considered introverts.
When we are unable to emotionally connect with those around us it can cause loneliness and stress. For those already vulnerable to these triggering events, these issues become insurmountable. And let’s not forget the individuals (children) who are having to quarantine in toxic and abusive environments.
As this shutdown continues, we will almost certainly see higher rates of suicide, suicide ideation, depression, anxiety and domestic violence.
So what do we do?
I think for families, creating structure is vital for the family system to continue. My heart goes out to moms. They have one of the most rewarding but toughest jobs on the planet. Nowadays, mom and dad are home. And so, when small children are at home, a structure for school, homework, play, and bedtime is vital for a sense of peace in the home especially if one or both parents do telecommute for work.
Reach out to those who you know might be needing someone to talk to and be present. These are the healthy times to utilize social media. Zoom, Skype, Google Meet and Facetime don’t have to be just for business related issues. Many families are using this platform to also connect. I think it would be great for friends to reach out to friends. Unfortunately, this isn’t a practical option for many of our elderly or those who are not tech-savvy while in isolation. So this is the perfect time to go old school and use the post office to mail a card or care box, or send flowers if your state permits that sort of delivery service.
We need to remember those who are currently without the life-sustaining contact and connections needed and we all could to take a moment to do something extra for them.
Finally, for those in need, or if you know someone in need, there are wonderful therapists who are trained in telehealth, myself included. I work as an associate therapist for Christian Counseling Services and we have a network of great therapists who are also able to do telehealth during these times. Make sure that everyone knows there are resources available to them, 24/7. When people understand that there are options and resources available it lends to feeling that personal sense of empowerment, thus hope and personal meaning can be renewed.
Kimberly Van Wuffen is a licensed associate EMDR, trauma counselor under direct supervision in the state of Arizona with Jennifer Cecil, Licensed Professional Counselor, M.Ed, LPC and author. She is EMDR level 2 trained and specializes in treating trauma related issues. She works specifically with women from the ages of 18 +. Along with being a therapist, she is a certified brain health coach. She incorporates a faith-based approach to counseling but you do not have to be a person of faith in order to meet with her. Her personal hobbies are working out, martial arts, writing, and hanging out with her family and dogs. https://christiancounselingservicesaz.com